Divorce is certainly one of life’s greatest and most challenging experiences. When a relationship ends, it can feel like the whole world is falling apart. All the dreams you shared and the foundation you built together for the future seem to crumble under your feet. The future may even seem scary, at least for a moment. It can be very difficult to see the new possibilities that the break-up brings, let alone dare to hope for a better tomorrow.
Divorce brings up a wide range of emotions. Disappointment with your partner, with yourself and with the inability of the relationship to succeed is often palpable. Even if we feel relief at the same time, the sadness and anger of abandonment and lost opportunities are certainly present in all divorces. After all, we assume at the beginning of a relationship that it will work. We believe the relationship will endure through the waves and storms of life.
Give yourself time
After a break-up, we can be in a hurry to move on with our lives. We may be afraid of being abandoned and alone. We may not have the energy or even the will to give more time to work through a broken relationship. We want to leave all the pain, the sadness behind and start a new phase of our lives with as much positive energy as possible. But is this possible? Is it even realistic to think that we could start a new life without dealing with the break-up, other than turning the internal knob from Off to On? The more we have invested in a failed relationship, the deeper the feelings of separation can be. So could the question in the title be misplaced? What if dealing with a breakup doesn’t mean sacrificing time for my ex? Because in going through a divorce, I am first and foremost giving myself time to heal. Understanding the story of a failed relationship helps me to work through the emotions that the breakup has stirred up. By taking the courage to stop and get to know my own needs and desires, step by step I create a more solid foundation for a new beginning. In other words, during the crisis, I can get to know myself in a whole new way and understand my own way of acting in different relationships. Giving myself time to reflect is certainly rewarding.
Support from a divorce recovery group to help you deal with your divorce
Are you going through a divorce or have you already been divorced? Do you want to deal with the emotions of divorce? Looking for a place to talk about your divorce? Fortunately, we don’t have to deal with divorce alone. A divorce group offers a safe space to discuss and share ideas with others in the same situation. You can find information about the divorce recovery groups, what they cover and when new support groups start on the Eosita website.